Parenting Through Divorce: Holidays

Parenting Through Divorce:  Holiday Parenting Time in Illinois

The holiday season can be a difficult time for those who are recently divorced as well as for those who are going through a divorce.  For those with children, many times extended families end up feeling the effects of the divorce.  Decisions need to be made as to which party will have the children on each holiday.  A difficult balancing act usually takes place, which attempts to ensure family traditions continue with the children despite the divorce, while at the same time maintaining a level of fairness between the parents and their extended families.

For any recently divorced parents, the terms of their Parenting Plan and Allocation Judgment will determine who has the right to exercise parenting time with the children on each holiday.  It’s important to remember under most Parenting Plans, the schedule of assigned parenting time only takes place in the event the parents cannot agree who should have parenting time on a specific date.  This means the parents are free to work with each other, even after the divorce is finalized, to ensure the children’s best interests are put first.  Sometimes this means a Father giving up a Christmas Eve night with the children if the Mother’s side of the family is in town.  In this situation, the parents are free to work with each other to adjust their court-ordered holiday schedules.  If the Mother was assigned Thanksgiving parenting time, she can agree to the children spending Thanksgiving with Father.  The assigned parenting times need to only take effect if the parents cannot agree.

For those parents currently going through a divorce, holidays can be especially difficult.  If a Parenting Plan and Allocation Judgment has not yet been entered, each holiday will have to be addressed on an individual basis as they arise.  This can cause difficulties in planning out-of-state travel and logistics.  When the parents are unable to agree on a holiday parenting schedule, the majority of courts in Illinois apply an alternating annual schedule on an odd/even numbered year basis.  This means that for every holiday Mother is assigned in 2018, Father will be assigned the identical holidays in 2019, and vice versa.  Furthermore, the Illinois courts tend to divide the more popular holidays such that each parent will have some parenting time with the children on or near the holiday.  For example, If Mother is assigned Christmas Eve in 2018, Father will be assigned Christmas Day.  If Father is assigned New Years Eve, Mother will be assigned New Years Day.

While the Court’s assigning of alternating holidays ensures fairness, it does not always reflect or encourage the continuation of family traditions.  For this reason, parents are encouraged to work with each other to reach an agreement on a holiday schedule that best reflects what each parent believes to be the best interests of their children, rather than a third party deciding it for them.

There are a number of additional factors to consider when considering a holiday parenting schedule.  Contact a divorce lawyer or family attorney at our Lombard or Plainfield offices for a free consultation.  Our attorneys are able to meet in person or discuss your options via phone if it is more convenient for you.

For more information about Illinois Parenting Plans and Allocation Judgments, see section 5/602.7 of the Illinois Marriage and Dissolution of Marriage Act.

 

Want to Re-Marry an Ex-Spouse? Read These Important Considerations

Important Considerations for Re-Marriage:

Many couples get married, and many couples get divorced.  Some of those couples end up meeting new people and getting re-married.  While certainly less common, some couples even get re-married to each other after getting divorced.  In this situation, many people believe their marriage will simply “pick up where it left off.”  While this might be true on an emotional or relationship level, the Illinois courts will not treat your marriage this way.

In Illinois, your first marriage is considered completed after a Judgment for Dissolution of Marriage is entered and your property is allocated.  This initial allocation of property is important when you get re-married to an ex-spouse, as even though that property might have been acquired during the (first) marriage, it will be treated by the Illinois courts as each spouse’s pre-marital property.  This means that all financial accounts and property you bring into your second marriage, even if it’s to the same spouse as your first marriage, are no longer considered marital property.

This same concept applies when the Court calculates maintenance, or spousal support.  In Illinois, significant increases in the duration of maintenance occur every five years of marriage.  However, if you get re-married to your ex-spouse, the Court will only consider the length of your second (or most recent) marriage when determining an award of maintenance.  If you were to get re-married to an ex-spouse who still owed you 8 years of maintenance payments, and your re-marriage only lasted 2 years, there is a good chance the Court would only award you a few months of maintenance, rather than the years of maintenance you were previously awarded.

There are a number of additional factors to consider when considering re-marriage, especially when it is to an ex-spouse.    Contact a divorce lawyer or family attorney at our Lombard or Plainfield offices for a free consultation.  Our attorneys are able to meet in person or discuss your options via phone if it is more convenient for you.

For more information about marital property in divorce cases, see section 5/503 of the Illinois Marriage and Dissolution of Marriage Act.

How Property is Divided in a Divorce

Divorce:  Property Division

When parties go through a divorce, the first major thing the Court will decide are issues relating to the parenting of the child or children.  If the parties do not have any children, or once the parenting issues are decided, the Court will then turn to the financial side of the divorce.  While child support and spousal support do need to be determined, a more complex issue arises when the Court is tasked with dividing the marital estate.

What is the Marital Estate

The marital estate is the total value of all assets determined to be marital minus all debts determined to be marital.  This means the Court must first determine which assets are “marital.”  A general rule of thumb is that all assets acquired during the marriage, regardless of title, are marital assets that make up the marital estate.  There are various exceptions, which an experienced divorce lawyer or family attorney can explain in further detail.

Marital debts are those debts incurred during the marriage for a normal marital purpose, including most commonly mortgage debts and auto loan debts.

Determining the value of the marital estate can become complicated as the liquidity of the marital assets become more complex.  Calculating the value of a bank account is straight forward; calculating the value of a business is not.  In many cases it makes sense to hire an expert to value a business in a divorce case, as reaching an accurate valuation is necessary before the Court can divide property.  Tax consequences also must be considered when dividing retirement accounts.

Once the value of the marital estate is determined, the Court will then divide it equitably.  Many times the Court determines an equal division of the marital estate to be equitable, but the law only requires the division to be equitable, not equal.

There are a number of factors the court can consider in determining whether the division of marital property is equitable.  Contact a divorce lawyer or family attorney at our Lombard or Plainfield offices for a free consultation.  Our attorneys are able to meet in person or discuss your options via phone if it is more convenient for you.

For more information about marital property in divorce cases, see section 5/503 of the Illinois Marriage and Dissolution of Marriage Act.

Can I Stop a Divorce Once It Is Filed?

Can I stop a divorce once it is filed?

It is fairly simple to stop a divorce at any point prior to the entry of a final Judgment for Dissolution of Marriage.  If the party who filed the Petition for Dissolution of Marriage no longer wishes to proceed with the divorce, they can request a voluntary dismissal of their Petition through a Motion to the Court. If the non-filing party has already filed a response to the divorce petition, and/or filed a counter-petition for divorce, additional procedural requirements may need to be met, and both parties’ agreement to dismiss the case may be needed prior to the dismissal.  Once a divorce is stopped, all previous Orders entered by the Court become unenforceable.

A more common scenario that occurs is when the parties wish to have a “reconciliation” period after a Petition for Dissolution of Marriage has been filed.  In this scenario, the parties have already begun the divorce process, but one or both parties are not one hundred percent sure they want to continue.  The Court will generally grant at least one request for reconciliation, which is a period of approximately 90 days during which the divorce process is “paused” as the parties attempt to work out their differences.  If the reconciliation period is successful, the Petition for Dissolution of Marriage can be withdrawn and the parties can continue as if no divorce had been filed.  If the reconciliation attempt fails, the divorce picks back up where it left off at the start of the reconciliation period.

If you have questions regarding a divorce you are going through or planning to go through, contact our experienced lawyers today.  Our attorneys are available to meet either in person at our Lombard or Plainfield offices or on the phone at any time.

Mediation in Divorce: What Issues Must be Mediated?

Mediation in Divorce and Family Cases

In most Illinois counties, if the parents cannot agree on the issues of parental responsibilities or decision making, custody, or parenting time (or other non-financial issues), the Court will Order the parties to attend mediation prior to proceeding to a contested hearing on their issues in dispute.  This serves two main purposes:  encourage discussion and possible settlement, and also to deter court action over relatively minor disputes.  If the parents must attend (and pay) a licensed mediator prior to bringing the matter before the Judge, usually only serious and major disputes will remain unresolved.  Mediation may be waived by the Court for good cause and is not required if impediments exist such as: domestic violence, mental illness, cognitive impairment, drug use, alcohol use, prescription medication use, physical impairment, fraud, duress or undue influence.

If you are unsure whether your dispute is subject to mandatory mediation, contact our experienced divorce and family law attorneys.  We are available to meet either in person at our Lombard or Plainfield offices or on the phone at any time.

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